Husband is derailed many times, constantly do not return, do not dare to divorce the original match, how to marry?
God, please give me calm, I will accept that I can’t change it; give me courage, change I can change it; give me wisdom, tell the resolution The difference between the two.
When Su Mei found the husband’s derailment, he was broken with the woman for a few months. More than two years. The wrong Su Mei immediately thought of saving marriage, communicating with her husband, honestly, hoping that her husband is more important because of aware of the family, so they cut off the family.
She believes that her husband also reveals his heart. He didn’t live for yourself 40, and he didn’t live for himself. He thought about it, his mother, his mother, herself A person went to the outside, enjoying the life without any restraint, so that this time, it is still more important. These words, Su Meixin.
In fact, she didn’t plan to divorce. I have already thought about him. After all, the husband and wife have gone for so many years, that is, it should encounter difficulties and support.
However, in the process of communicating the relationship with communication this day, she has discovered her husband and another female classmate in a chat.
The heaviest thing to Samui is: He thought that her husband and the first woman were broken for a few months, because conscience found that they had to return to their families, but they didn’t expect that the small three walked a small four.
Since this time did not catch the evidence of the husband’s substantial derail, he killed his mouth, resolutely not admit that the relationship with that woman is just talking about chatting with each other when he is empty and lonely. Moreover, and the other party also has a family, two people are just a mutual comfort.
When Su Mo was broken, the husband installed a big thing, and the other party was deleted, and the other party was completely broken. I didn’t expect to have no return to the heart, and I found another small trumpet with that woman, and even turned a total of 100,000 yuan to give her. So much money, but also to abandon her two years of women, this is not a small thing!
In the husband’s trumpet, Su Mei feels more unbearable: he has been looking for Miss for so many years. These evidence that one by one is placed in the eyes, so that he thought that he was only able to discharge once and decided to forgive him to Su Mei, and he felt very shame.
She can’t figure out that this is the first few derailts, and even at all, I don’t know this is the first few women carrying her.
This made that Samome, who once thought of being a more than ten years of marriage, and remembered that she had a fact that she had no sex life in three years. He has an excuse to escape with pressure. I didn’t expect to live like a kind of horse! And in the economy, you will have a daily wear, for the family, the old expenses, the husbandBut the big hand is spending money in other women, she is not as good as a fees!
In the face of the derailive husband, I know that this man is not awkward, but Samui is immersed in painful emotional entanglement. He is not a wicker, not a bad person, has been so good time, is it going to return this?
Recalling that I used to get a bit drop, my husband flowed with tears when I got married, I finally got you, I have to be good for you for a lifetime; when my husband is done, I will give him a good time when I am pregnant. She massage; when the rain, her husband took the outer cover, she was protected on her head …
The small details of these life care care about it is also him! Nowadays, if you have, if you don’t find that your husband is unbearable, is he still maintaining a good man’s image for your family?
This man who has been derailed has a number of women, she has already gone. He left himself for three years, but he went through the clouds in other women. He bought some jewelry gifts to himself, and there was no other woman.
He made Su Mei to do a credit card for him, and did not expect him to brush a credit card to give a woman to spend money.
I don’t know where, Su Mei can’t sleep all night, the hair is also big. She hated the husband ruined this a beautiful marriage, but loved this man who had a care about her.
She still expected, how much she would like to be a day, and completely returned to her family and actively repair this relationship with her.
She is eager to redeem the old bureau, abolish the soil derailed, let him recreate the family’s reunion, she really wants to go through the next half of the life.
Su Mei has a strong emotional dependence on her husband. She wants to marry and other husbands to change, but she doesn’t know how long it is going to keep. Once again, Su Mo said hello: \”Do you still have this home? Do you don’t love me?\” The husband’s words did not send her a few collapses, and even wanted to jump from the upstairs. I have a hundred.
Woman, even your own life can don’t, but I still think about the man’s love. Sister Sister also can’t hate she pulls her from the edge of the cliff.
However, we have to come slowly to help Samui go out of emotional thinking traps.
The husband derailed is that he made a mistake, but it was not to be an adult shape. This is an absurd paradox, but exists in most derailed families.
In the face of this kind of derailment and lie, it is a man who is home to the house.
I would like to know that he really knows wrong? not at all.
Sistey understands, we have to cut off all kindsIt is really difficult, but the other party is like a bunch of old clothes, can’t wear, no use of yourself. In addition to continuing, it has been contrary to the principle of interest.
Let him not find a woman, let him give up his divorce, do we do it, how do we break this deadlock?
First, don’t blind realistic eyes, use past beauty to look forward to future life.
Su Mei has always said that I want to go back, go back to the past, happiness, will not be considered by men. Yes, every woman will miss those beautiful, we don’t have to deny the sweet time of the past, after all, the feelings at that time are really true. But I remember that when I can’t continue, I cut off my greedy.
Many people can’t give up feelings and marriages, use the love of the past as an excuse, why? Because I want to continue, I am unlimited to enlarge my desire, I want to be so good like it forever.
Why can’t you go? Because even if he hopes to go back, can you really believe in? Who can guarantee the next discovery, isn’t it trust again? We don’t know if you can go back, it should be more practical.
What is the fact? It is the money that he derailed, 娼, 娼, is a woman’s credit card, but it has been playing with the woman with the woman. It is to pursue freedom for the trust of the words. She has no common topic and hobbies, and she is not good enough to let women think that they are not good enough, find more excuses and reasons for his derailment.
These naked facts are orthodally, it is unpublished. Because we can’t help others, there is no way to stop derailment, and you can’t let the people don’t have to be embarrassed; even if he is a guarantee of the sky swearing, we can no longer have a whole body.
Since we can’t believe this man, then what he said doesn’t love me, do you want this home, what is the meaning? Like Samui, I will ask this man countless times, to explore, if he said that we want this home, will we really believe? In fact, from the moment of his debilled betray, the answer has appeared, and the pale language has no meaning.
Second, deeply dig the root of the fear, and then completely remove it.
In the face of the man, Su Mei has never dare to divorce, what are she afraid? She repeatedly asked her husband to don’t have this home, in fact, she is in fear emotional separation. The man did not give her the answer, representing him, don’t this home.The possibility. Su Mei didn’t know what the future of this home is what is like, so it is huge by huge unknown and fear.
At this time, we have to think about it. What is this unknown fear? There is an independence of a person to take care of the matter, there are people around you to see the different eyes of your divorce, there is a loneliness of your long night, and there is a problem encountered during your child’s growth, your own economical pressure … Every look It’s hard to get up, so Su Mo feels weak.
Because she thought that all of them were all shaped by men, she also had a strong sense of dependence on her husband. This dependence is coming from the other party to give us a conditionless condition. Decreated image.
This image has already been broken, and all of yourself in others, that is, the character of the other party, the risk value is too high. So, in fact, we are really fearful, it is afraid that your future is not good. However, one side is facing the arrow countless countless, it is unknown to the future, which one makes us more difficult to face? There is a bad thing in the future, but the status quo is definitely bad. Why don’t we try to explore the future unknown?
In the Sistel group, almost all sisters faced the husband’s extension, but more sisters became super-happy after a single mother.
They develop their own independence, unlocking various skills, with healthy body, gradually and perfect. If Su Mei’s future is this, will she fear? Those problems in the previous fear are not unprofable for a positive woman.
Let’s find a partner, not just to rely on, but with the other party, you can make us get better and better. Therefore, it is better to take this opportunity, gradually establish a self-system, this lazy, no matter whether it is marital or divorced, it is not possible to steal.
Future is good, the most basic condition is good. The mentality is not good, and there is no economic ability. Therefore, in addition to economic ability is the primary, the spirit is also important.
Third, the owner of life, not to be dominated by life.
Once people are dominated by life, the days are hard. What is there in life? Men, work, money, body, if a little thing in these things can inspire your anxiety, then you are fully controlled by life.
We have to turn over, I have to control everything I can grasp, not to let us change them, but when these things happen, we can control yourself without them.
How to control? When you can’t change the status quo, you can’t control your emotions, leave it is the best choice. Leaving these slag people, not because he is not good, but when you are with him, your state is not good.
We need to go to life, need to subtract for weight-bearing emotions. Marriage is just a relationship, this relationship is for our lives, instead of our service for marriage.
A marriage, the standards we have to pay must be that this marriage is good for our own life main line.
Su Mei’s current stage, the most important thing is to accumulate ourselves, this few derailed men will not have to have, don’t have to think with my mind, and my own life is the main line. Take care of things.
Analysis of your existing advantages, which is much more developed, how can I do it, how to do it, after all, people are in the final fight. How to plan for the baby, academics, how to improve the results, is responsible.
How can I get a house for my divorce, or set it into a goal; how to get a graduate student, have developed in the career; how to develop a secondary industry, after all, take time and traffic accumulation How to arrange time and plan …
There are too many things we have to care, there is no time to hurt the spring.
What about that man? If you use the value, take your child on time to get money on time, just keep a partner. In Sister Sister, it is always based on the consideration of divorce. Now Samui wants to do the business, work hard to make yourself with divorce, let yourself be a helm.
We must believe in that sentence: Never want to change others, change, only yourself.
The future days, although there is no relying on the mountain, only yourself, but you can go more and more confident!